Crying is not “Cry it Out”

"Crying -it-out" is leaving your child alone and unattended for long periods of time and expecting them to eventually stop crying. I do not find that developmentally appropriate for a child of any age. You have worked on creating a secure attachment to your child. You have showed them that when they cry, or call for you, you will come. Taking that away completely will be confusing and unsettling for your child. During Tiny Duck Parenting's Week to Sleep program, you will be with your child every step of the way. When there is crying, you will respond with clear and consistent action that your child will be able to predict. This eventually leads to your child choosing to stay in their room and in their bed, because the unpredictability around bedtime and sleep is gone. As the parent, you help regulate your child's nervous system, as theirs is not yet fully developed. This comes into play when you sleep train. Your child will likely go through many different emotions, and as the parent, it is your job to stay relaxed, grounded, and calm. By keeping your emotions regulated, your child will be able to sense there is nothing to be afraid of, and they will start gaining the confidence to sleep on their own.